How do you deal with the awkwardness of walking out of massage places if you don't choose anyone?

avatar purpleelephant 2026-07-06 22:59

See in massage parlours in Asia or those windows places in Amsterdam you could see 👀 the girls through the windows before committing to it or walking in. But here in Vancouver all places are blocked off so you can't see the inside you have to walk in and the mamasan leads you to a room and shows you the girls and pretty much forces you to choose one. Now I'm not saying there aren't pretty girls I've been with plenty but there is always the chance that out of the 4 or 5 or more girls none of them fit your taste and you have to walk out. This is so awkward to do and you feel like the guiltiest person when you do that I get traumatized every time that happens to the point I'm reluctant to try out new places or wait for a very long time before going back to the same place I walked out on. Some mamasans will say something nasty when you do this others are cool with it but it still makes you feel bad. Is there no way to overcome this? If you call and want hot and sexy they'll say all girls are hot and sexy and come and take a look. I wish it was the same as in Asia where you are the observer and they are the observed you can see them without having to walk into the store. How do you guys overcome this to choose the best possible experience for yourself while not seeming rude to walk out and not choose anyone?

avatar SolidSnake 2026-07-06 23:11

Go to Phoenix if you feel bad walking. I hear they charge 20 to view the lineup.

avatar ChromeGasCap 2026-07-06 23:37

It truly is no different than going into your favorite tailor to find that they do not have a suit to your liking. Do you purchase something from every store you walk into?

avatar jgg 2026-07-07 03:56

It has never been a problem for me. If I don't see the food, clothes, shoes, car or woman I like, I leave.

avatar Newuser505 2026-07-07 04:28

"Its going to be a pass for me, dawg."

avatar masterpoonhunter 2026-07-07 16:54

Guilt Who the hell created that and instilled it into so much of the culture. It gets used by so many to control things. Yeah I know, organized religion of which my opinions have been stated many times. As the rest of the posters have said, if you don't see what you want, don't buy it. No "guilt" involved.

avatar angry anderson 2026-07-07 17:44

avatar Pumped 2026-07-07 18:15

If you really need an excuse to leave, then the old "I'm not feeling well" works.

avatar oldshark 2026-07-07 18:28

Usually it is not a problem to see a line-up unless you come by 4 or 5 times a week for a period of time and still don't select anyone. Yah, that actually happens. Some guys don't have the money at all, but want to have a bit of titillation. At that point, for sure, the mamasan starts giving you shit because you are wasting everyone's time. But normally, the better places will understand that you didn't see anyone you wanted to be with.

avatar grusse 2026-07-07 21:00

The "parade" is quick.."I'm (name)" and gone 6 ladies flit by so fast..who was #2 again,lol.

avatar 80watts 2026-07-08 04:54

Just fucken smile, anybody outside dosen't know you just walked out....

avatar HunkyBill 2026-07-09 06:34

jgg said: It has never been a problem for me. If I don't see the food, clothes, shoes, car or woman I like, I leave. Click to expand... That's cold, man. Can't compare a human to an inanimate object especially when sh'e's usually not in this profession by choice.

avatar HunkyBill 2026-07-09 06:35

80watts said: Just fucken smile, anybody outside dosen't know you just walked out.... Click to expand... Not everyone has thick skin like you...

avatar lailasworld 2026-07-09 08:01

purpleelephant said: See in massage parlours in Asia or those windows places in Amsterdam you could see 👀 the girls through the windows before committing to it or walking in. But here in Vancouver all places are blocked off so you can't see the inside you have to walk in and the mamasan leads you to a room and shows you the girls and pretty much forces you to choose one. Now I'm not saying there aren't pretty girls I've been with plenty but there is always the chance that out of the 4 or 5 or more girls none of them fit your taste and you have to walk out. This is so awkward to do and you feel like the guiltiest person when you do that I get traumatized every time that happens to the point I'm reluctant to try out new places or wait for a very long time before going back to the same place I walked out on. Some mamasans will say something nasty when you do this others are cool with it but it still makes you feel bad. Is there no way to overcome this? If you call and want hot and sexy they'll say all girls are hot and sexy and come and take a look. I wish it was the same as in Asia where you are the observer and they are the observed you can see them without having to walk into the store. How do you guys overcome this to choose the best possible experience for yourself while not seeming rude to walk out and not choose anyone? Click to expand... From an SP’s POV, we literally couldn’t care less, we all get our turn eventually. Majority of us are desensitized to not being picked. It’s not rude at all if you can’t find what you’re fantasizing about, it’s your money and your time. I would suggest you say you forgot your cash in the car and just not come back. Orrrr thank the Mamasan for their time and that you’ll come again another day. Remind yourself that literally no one in the building cares if you say no. Do this a few times and you’ll be just as desensitized as us lol (I mean this in an empowering way, it reads kind of loser-y).

avatar Big Dick Bob 2026-07-09 16:18

It could be worse. You could walk out the front door and run into your boss, your pastor, your mistress and your wife.

avatar YYC 2026-07-09 17:15

lailasworld said: From an SP’s POV, we literally couldn’t care less, we all get our turn eventually. Majority of us are desensitized to not being picked. It’s not rude at all if you can’t find what you’re fantasizing about, it’s your money and your time. I would suggest you say you forgot your cash in the car and just not come back. Orrrr thank the Mamasan for their time and that you’ll come again another day. Remind yourself that literally no one in the building cares if you say no. Do this a few times and you’ll be just as desensitized as us lol (I mean this in an empowering way, it reads kind of loser-y). Click to expand... I think we feel guilty because the women are human and we feel like we're rejecting them as humans. But here's proof that it's not a rejection of them as humans, and that we're just an economic opportunity. We should get over it as quickly as the ladies get over it.

avatar masterpoonhunter 2026-07-09 17:25

Big Dick Bob said: It could be worse. You could walk out the front door and run into your boss, your pastor, your mistress and your wife. Click to expand... Sound like the start of a joke ...

avatar RandomePerson123 2026-07-09 18:09

masterpoonhunter said: Sound like the start of a joke ... Click to expand... Haha something similar happened to me was my mom and dad fml. Beautiful swan lake massage lol said I walked into wrong business was trying to go to the oil change office to pay it worked!

avatar masonjar 2026-07-09 22:59

Big Dick Bob said: It could be worse. You could walk out the front door and run into your boss, your pastor, your mistress and your wife. Click to expand... It could be even worse. You could walk into the front door and run into your boss, your pastor, your mom, your mistress, or your wife.

avatar 80watts 2026-07-11 08:30

HunkyBill said: Not everyone has thick skin like you... Click to expand... everybody has a poker face..... practice it...

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